Friday, July 3, 2015

Are Online Relationships Good Or Bad


If you've 'met' someone online you may be wondering are online relationships good?  For the most part, that depends on the exact nature of the relationship and how each of the people in the relationship feels about it.

Relationships are very personal and every person, and couple, to some degree make their own rules.  Having said that though, most good relationships will have some common features.  

For instance, it's important at an early stage for each of you to discuss what  you want to get out of the relationship.  Now, obviously, I'm not talking about pledging your undying love after you've just met someone, but as you get to know one another if the bond seems to be growing, would either, or both, of you like to eventually meet?  Or would you be more comfortable just keeping things in the cyber world?



There is no right or wrong when it comes to that question, but it's important that you are both on the same page.  Someone can get hurt if they feel the connection is strong enough to warrant actually meeting in person and the other person has no desire to take the relationship that far.

If one or the other of you is using your online relationship to 'cheat' on a real world partner, than it's not really good.  Cheating is cheating and most people would define it as having an emotional connection, a romantic connection, with someone other than your partner.  Even if the two of you never meet and never have a physical relationship, many would consider it cheating to have another romantic love besides your partner.

One of the biggest things everyone has to remember when they are involved in an online relationship of any kind is that you don't really know for sure who you're talking to.  That 21 year old female college student from Kansas may actually be a 45 year old plumber from Pittsburgh.   Yikes!  It's hard to really form a bond with another person if you can't even be sure who they really are.

Online relationships allow you to fill in a lot of the blanks about a person, and more often than not you'll fill things in the way you would like them to be.  This may be one of the biggest pitfalls of all when it comes to online relationships.  Of course, if the two of you actually meet in person, you will overcome that obstacle.  But if the two of you are content to leave things strictly online you have to remember that you can only get so close to someone when you can't ever be sure they are who they say they are.

Many people would argue that you can never really get to know another person, but if you've actually met them in person at least you know to some degree, if they are really who they say they are.

All in all the question: are online relationships good depends largely on you and what you're looking for in a relationship.  The internet offers a great way to meet new people, just make sure that you are clear about what it is you are really looking for.





Tuesday, June 16, 2015

If you want to get back with your ex, here's how!





Have you broken up with someone because of a misunderstanding, an argument, or over something that really shouldn't have caused a break up? Cause if you are then I can understand wanting to fix your relationship even if you had gotten pretty upset with them. There are a few methods you can take first is the active version and after the passive version.


Now to take the active approach and if your ex is willing to talk then this method should be the most straightforward, but if the heat of the last argument hasn't cooled down between the both of you then it most likely will lead to another word fight.
 First, come to understand what the argument was about. Then, if the argument is something you regret and that you truly want to get back together then you need to express that with your ex. Now, they might not want to talk to you and still feel upset, but you should kindly tell them that the argument went way out of hand and anything you said wasn't how you really felt and that you would want to possibly talk things over with them. Having sincerity in your words is far more important than pride at this point, but if they won't give you time they certainly don't deserve your attention.


Next we have is the passive method this one focuses solely on self evaluation and to get your ex to look at a fresh you. This one is probably the better option for both you and the entire relationship. The reason I say that is because if you look from how you were before, during, and after the relationship you gotta make some decisions based on how you feel towards yourself. Are you happy with who you are now? If not then you should choose this option, not only is it possible you'll catch your ex's attention, but you will feel better about yourself along with it. The steps for this method is easy. First, try changing your hairstyle to something you normally don't do, but look good with.


Next, spice up your wardrobe with something new for instance try different colored shirts that might bring a different feel that isn't usual for you. Now, the next step should be easier and something you need to think about less before doing and that would be to just hang out with your friends or some new companions and just enjoy yourself.
 Now the final step after separating any sad feelings and partly moved on from your ex if you still want to get back together. Talk to your ex with that new found confidence and bright appearance they just might jump at the chance to get back with you. This might make you happy to realize that your hurt feelings from the past are still there and the only reason your standing there now is because of how you feel towards them.


If you can't get past all of the drama with your ex they might not be worth it and then its time to move on and if you take the passive method you will most definitely come out with less scars and a lot more hope for future relationships that you can work on with them and even decide some things up front to prevent past problems to reoccur. I hope my insight is useful for many situations and even help those that need to move on, because there is no fix all answer.


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